The Secrets of Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet's Epic Love Story

Aquaman star Jason Momoa his dream-woman Lisa Bonet have been together for 16 years and have 2 kids together—and here's exactly how that happened.

By Natalie Finn Aug 01, 2021 7:00 AMTags
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Jason Momoa knows for sure that "anything is f--king possible."

"If someone says something isn't possible," the actor told Esquire in 2019. "I'm like, 'Listen here, I married Lisa Bonet.'"

Their love story is indeed the stuff of divine manifestation, the actor having decided that Denise Huxtable was the moon of his life years before they actually met. But one night, there she was...

Suffice it to say, the future Aquaman didn't belly flop when he had his chance, and he and Bonet have been happily paired off since 2005.

So, unlike the forbidding, ruthless, shirt-averse warrior he played on Game of Thrones, Momoa was already a fully domesticated family man, dedicated to the lady in his life and their children, no taming necessary.

His lack of availability might have crushed a few fans who thought they were discovering some new, untapped source of hopes and dreams when Khal Drogo invaded the screen in 2011, but the reality is so swoon-worthy, the disappointment proved fleeting.

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He still tends to skip the shirt on occasion, but such is the way of the actor, who hails from Honolulu and whose first major TV role was on Baywatch Hawaii. Seriously, what's a "shirt"? "It's more comfortable for me," Momoa quipped to E! News at Comic-Con in 2018.

He did, however, arrive fully clothed at his wedding. While Bonet was frequently referred to as his wife beforehand, and Momoa never made any effort to correct the assumption, the couple didn't officially get married until October 2017, when they quietly swapped vows at the Topanga, Calif., home they share with their daughter, Lola Iolani Momoa, and son, Nakoa-Wolf Manakauapo Namakaeha Momoa, as well as three dogs, a donkey dad bought for mom as a gift, no television and as little disposable plastic as possible.


But this family goes way back. And Momoa goes way, way back.

"Ever since I was 8 years old and I saw her on TV, I was like, 'Mommy, I want that one!'" Momoa shared on The Late Late Show in 2017, revealing that his crush on Bonet first blossomed when she was on The Cosby Show.

"I'm like, 'I'm going to stalk you for the rest of my life and I'm going to get you. I am a full-fledged stalker,'" he recalled. "I didn't tell her that until we had two babies—otherwise, I'd be creepy and weird. I've always wanted to meet her. She was a queen, always."

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When he was about 26 and just beginning what would be a four-season run on Stargate: Atlantis, fate brought them together one night at a jazz club in Los Angeles.

"We just happened to be at the right place, right time, mutual friends," Momoa said. "I actually had dreaded my hair almost for her." Like, by coincidence?

"I had huge dreadlocks, she had dreadlocks. I literally turned around, I was with my best friend, and I see her and I'm just like"—he paused, recalling the struggle to keep a straight, chill face. "She goes, you know, 'I'm Lisa.' I was like, I turned around to my friend and was, like, [teen girl shriek of excitement]. I had f--king fireworks going off inside me, man!"

He didn't have a car, so, "I convinced her to take me home, 'cause I was living in a hotel." But first they stopped at the 101 Coffee Shop in Hollywood, where Bonet ordered a Guinness—which happens to be Momoa's favorite.

"That was it," he said. "We had Guinness and grits and, you know, the rest is history."

Of course, a little bit of history preceded Momoa's arrival in Bonet's life. 

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The actress and model is also mom to Zoë Kravitz, her daughter with ex-husband Lenny Kravitz, whom Bonet met at a concert in 1986 when she was 19 and eloped to Las Vegas with in 1987. Zoë was born in 1988.

"One day I turned around and I looked at him and I knew, that was my man," Bonet said on The Arsenio Hall Show in 1989.  

"Zoë's mom and I were incredibly and deeply in love. It was a magical relationship and magical time in my life," Kravitz said in 2013 on Oprah's Master Class. "She really helped to bring out the best in me and inspired me. We were very young and it was wonderful and we had Zoë. I see now what it was all about. It was really all about bringing this beautiful, child to the planet and also sharing the love that we had."

Which is great, because otherwise it would've been about whirlwind romance and heartbreak.

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"We were too young, we were babies," Kravitz also recalled. "Our marriage was not based on reality."

Bonet's unraveling marriage, fueled by Kravitz's rock-star ways run amok, coincided with her exiting The Cosby Show in 1991—when Bonet's character Denise and her husband Martin (Joseph C. Phillips) went abroad, leaving Olivia (Raven-Symoné) with grandparents Cliff and Claire and the rest of the Huxtable family in New York.

They didn't finalize the divorce until 1993, but an April 21, 1991, New York Times review of Kravitz's album Mama Said mentioned that he "recently broke up with his wife." The track "It Ain't Over Till It's Over," the artist's first top 10 hit, was one of many songs on the album inspired by Bonet, written when Kravitz was in the throes of having second thoughts about splitting up for good.

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"That's life, that's love, it's reality, it's relationships," Kravitz said on The Arsenio Hall Show in 1991 when the album was brand new. "As long as we're living and breathing, you don't know what the next move's gonna be."

He remembered on VH1's Behind the Music in 1999, "That album was a big haze, man, 'cause Lisa and I had split, and it was a very heavy time."

After their split, Bonet changed her name to Lilakoi Moon. (There was a hard-to-shake rumor floating around that she then had a secret child with her yoga instructor boyfriend Bryan Kest, but that was finally debunked more than 12 years ago.)

"My heart was blown open from just loving someone so much," Bonet told Vibe in 1999. "It also deepened my desire to heal myself—you know, not wanting to pass on the less-than-positive 'family heirlooms' that get passed down. I can honestly say it accelerated my growth and my desire to be here and to participate in a loving, conscious way on this planet."

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She had recently filmed small but compelling roles in the movies Enemy of the State and High Fidelity (which was coincidentally turned into a Hulu series starring Zoë as the lovelorn lead), and she didn't sound concerned about becoming less famous than she was in the 1980s. "There's not a lot out there, and what is out there has to be really interesting to make me want to leave my life, which is really precious to me," Bonet said. "My desire to participate in the business is not to make more crap so I'm really content. I have a desire to create more film, more beauty, more art, more love - but I don't feel desperate. I mean, for me it's not about creating or building a career anymore, you know?"

Talking to Net-a-Porter's Porter magazine in 2018, Bonet again referred to breakup grief as an undesirable "heirloom." She remembered going through "a very accelerated time, spiritually and intellectually," because she didn't want to pass the "fresh wound of a divorce" onto her daughter.

"I think there are probably times when these thresholds can either sink you," Bonet said, "or you can see who you are and rise and dust yourself off."

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When she was 11, Zoë went to live with her dad in Miami full time—which was fodder for tabloids but which Zoë described to Complex years later as her mother wanting "to give me an opportunity to be a normal kid."

With their little girl now a grown-up singer and actress who starred in HBO's critically acclaimed Big Little Lies (with her dad's ex-girlfriend Nicole Kidman) and is going to play Catwoman opposite Robert Pattinson's Batman, Bonet and Kravitz have long since made amends.

"Zoë's mom and I now are best friends," Kravitz said on Master Class. "It's interesting because that's how the relationship started. But it makes you feel really good when you can do that. When we're all together now—her man, her kids, Zoë, me—we're all together and we're one big, happy family. It's beautiful and it just shows you what can be done."

"Her man" being, of course, Jason Momoa, who is also close with Zoë and was all aglow with Instagram-pride over his stepdaughter's turn in Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald. He also told E! News at Comic-Con that she was "amazing" in Big Little Lies.

And as far as Zoë joining the DC Universe is concerned, Momoa told Entertainment Tonight last year that she was "perfect casting" for Catwoman. "It's perfect. She's gonna kill it."

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"My dad and my step-dad get along really well, and my dad loves and is close with my [step]brother and sister. It's really beautiful," Zoë told Ocean Drive in 2015. "As long as everyone can be in the same room together, and have love for each other, it's totally healthy."

"It's full-on family love," Bonet echoed the sentiment in Porter.

While he was doing press at Comic-Con in 2018, Momoa was sporting a massive turquoise necklace, a real statement piece that he said was a wedding present from Bonet.

"I can't say it was full-on from the moment we saw each other, but we have been together from the day that we met," Bonet told Porter. Recalling their now legendary impromptu first date over Guinness and grits, she said, "In that moment, love came and it came big, and he did not run as I think a lot of men do. He basically picked me up and threw me over his shoulder, caveman style!"

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In 2008, Bonet returned to TV in the short-lived Life on Mars, and she credited Momoa with helping her prepare emotionally to get back in the game.

"To have my face reinstated in minds and homes once a week was an intense decision," she told People. "I'm a shy person. I don't know if it's in my DNA to share with the world...Having a mate has given me that feeling of safety. Jason is the love of my life. He's everything I hoped would come."

Like Kravitz, Momoa wasn't a big star when she first met him—but so far, so good since his name has become more of the household variety.

"What's cool about Jason is that he's an alpha male who stands for love and family," Bonet told Porter. "And to circle back to my own wounds, having an absent father, then to be fully met by a man of that stature, is really incredible. Jason embodies a rare form of masculinity in this day and age—he's a leader; he's generous. Just in terms of charisma, physique, the right use of power, responsibility, work ethic, you can go down the line."

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That work ethic helped lead him from Baywatch and Stargate: Atlantis to starring in a reboot of Conan the Barbarian and becoming one of the most iconic Game of Thrones characters despite only surviving for a season.

Chatting with Conan O'Brien about playing the hyper-aggressive Khal Drogo on GoT, Momoa quipped, "I tried it on my wife, it didn't work that way." He did get to call the shots, however, on the set of his 2014 passion project Road to Paloma, a revenge drama he wrote, directed and starred in, and in which he shared a romantic scene with Bonet, who was appearing in her first movie in almost a decade.

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"That was a motherf--ker," Momoa told Collider in 2014, referring to the love scene in the film. "It was a very hard scene to shoot. She didn't think so, but it was. It was effortless and we got it in 15 minutes, but it was like trying to capture the first time we met, and yet have it be three times that. It was all the things we weren't saying, and we had to capture it in the perfect light. I didn't want to reshoot it.  It's hard to get those real, true, beautiful moments."

"That was a lot of years of our life that went into that film," Bonet said during a lunch at Sundance in 2014, according to Zap2It.  

"[The role] required me to be very shy—she makes me shy and...she's the only one that can really do that," Momoa also told E! News at the time. "I just don't want to suck in front of my wife. I don't want to be bad," he added, smiling. "I want her to like me and love me and continue to do that."

That collaboration led to another in the Sundance series The Red Road. Momoa had the law-and-disorder series lined up, and after they submitted Road to Paloma to the Sundance Film Festival, the show's executive producer approached Bonet to play a lawyer on the show.


"We looked at it and it was completely opposite of what we had just played," Momoa told Collider. "We never thought we'd work together again. It wasn't like I said, I'm only doing this with my wife.' But, it was great because it's the opposite of what we played in the movie. And she really dug it and wanted to do it. It's definitely fun, working across from your partner."

Pressed further, he quipped, "It's all right." Then, more seriously, "No, it's an honor [working with Bonet]. In this business, we have to travel so far away from our families. We have two children, so if we can work together, that's awesome. Before I met her, it was a dream to work with her."

Bonet told Zap2It, "[The network was] like, 'We don't normally like husbands and wives working together,' but they really enjoyed our chemistries, so it was super flattering too."

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Since then, Bonet has appeared on Girls and Ray Donovan, while Momoa starred in the Netflix series Frontier; made an impressive splash in the DC Universe, with his Justice League spin-off Aquaman raking in more than $1.1 billion worldwide; and now stars in the Apple TV+ sci-fi drama See, which has been renewed for a second season.

Bonet and Momoa also teamed up again this year for their first-ever Super Bowl commercial together, a comical spot for Rocket Mortgage.

And while over the years Bonet has stayed eerily similar-looking to her 19-year-old Cosby Show self, Momoa added what looks like an entire extra musculature to what was an already chiseled frame. Discipline was required to get a 50-inch chest and 19-inch biceps, which took shape thanks to some serious weight training (for bulk) and cardio (for definition), but the man is still going to enjoy his pints of stout.

Again recalling that magical moment when Bonet ordered his favorite beer, he gushed to Men's Health, "I thought, 'Oh my God, I can't believe I'm with a woman who ordered
 a Guinness. I love her.' When I got to know her, she was the woman of my dreams."

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He also remarked, when the subject of too many beers came up, "I think I'd be in a whole worse place if I didn't have a beautiful wife and children. I'm very thankful for my family. They keep me in the sky but they also keep me grounded."

Asked if he had any special secrets for a successful long-term relationship after all those years together, Momoa replied, "Ha ha! No. Men are idiots and women are crazy. Generally speaking, I'm always wrong, so I just apologize. They're queens, man. Take care of your queen, and she'll take care of her king. Just do everything you can for her."

They try to do as much as they can together, too. When he shot Aquaman in Australia for six months, the whole family came along, and last summer they took advantage of all the kid-friendly fare Hollywood was putting out, arranging special screenings of The Lion King for Lola's birthday and Abominable, just because.

Last summer, well... A rare video of Lola throwing axes on their property that her dad posted in March 2020 proved, one, that the family has been getting creative during quarantine (Momoa has also teamed with sporting goods company So Ill to make masks for charity), and two, that Bonet has another mini-me.

Lola was born in July 2007 and Wolf followed in December 2008.

Bonet says that Momoa has suggested they relocate to his native Hawaii or somewhere even further away, like New Zealand, but she told Porter that, while the idea of Costa Rica intrigues her, she's "not quite ready to disappear completely!"

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"When I'm by myself, I'm really cool and nice to everyone, but then the whole paparazzi thing? If you see me with my kids, I change," Momoa told Esquire in 2017. "I just want them not to deal with that. I'm just Papa to them. We don't watch TV. We haven't even seen Star Wars yet."

While still based in La La Land, Momoa makes sure the kids get plenty of outdoor time along with the VIP screenings, rock climbing (they also have a climbing wall in the house), camping, fishing, paddleboarding and skateboarding among the activities they regularly get up to. Last year he also brought Lola and Wolf to a peaceful protest against the planned building of a telescope atop Mauna Kea, on Hawaii's Big Island.

He and Bonet, who maintains her zen with yoga and staying away from social media, make sure to steal away for adult time too, such as date night at the October 2020 premiere of See.

But though Bonet is her husband's No. 1 supporter, and vice versa, "she's very, very, very private," Momoa explained to Esquire last fall. "I'm the opposite, like, Come on in!"

They've achieved a happy medium over these last 16 years, though.

Asked at the Justice League premiere in November 2017 if they felt like newlyweds, the recently married Momoa grew mock-deadly serious, as Bonet burst into giggles, and informed E! News, "Oh, yeah. If I weren't on camera right now, I would tell you." He cocked an eyebrow. "But oh yeah. Seriously. Big time."

Always a good idea, to make sure your wife has a smile on her face.

Bonet said that, while she had already thought of him as her husband, she did feel different once they were officially married. "Definitely," Momoa agreed. "I never thought I would but...I plan on being with her for the rest of my life. But it's just that moment where," he made a gesture indicating he was taking it up a notch, "let's go to the next level. 'I'll be here your whole life.'"

(Originally published Aug. 1, 2018, at 3 a.m. PT)