In Glamour's September 2013 issue, the 44-year-old actress opened up to her We're the Millers costar Jason Sudeikis about her 30s—which included a marriage and divorce from Brad Pitt—and what she learned from the experience.
While the Friends alum said she "did OK" in her 20s, thinking about the next decade clearly brought up some different emotions. "Thirties. Thirties," Jen pondered aloud what advice she'd give to herself during that period. "Go to therapy. Clean up all of the s--t. Clean up all of the toxins and the noise. Understand who you are. Educate yourself on the self."
"You can undo a lot of things," she continued. "If you're not happy, you can become happy. Happiness is a choice. That's the thing I really feel. Like with friends who refuse to get happy, who refuse to rise above the place where they're at."
"You actually deserve to have a family," Jen said. "And once you meet yourself, and truly love yourself, then you attract. And look—I mean, the two of us have found these two, beautiful, loving open people."
Jason, who's engaged to Olivia Wilde, wholeheartedly agreed. "We have a similar timeline," he said to Jen. He also praised the star for writing his fiancée "a really, really kind email" last year after Olivia's candid Glamour piece about her divorce and sex life drew a lot of criticism.
"Well, that was because I felt so strongly about it, when I heard what she was going through," Jen, who Jason correctly described as "a gal's gal" said. "Because I related to it—I related to that f--king feeling of people just wanting to rip down the powerful, beautiful woman who [speaks her mind]."
Olivia's raunchy comments were taken "out of context," according to Jason. "Stuff like that's so sh--ty," Jen said. "I don't like injustice. We're living in a time where, whether it's the Internet or the tabloids, being sh--ty has become a sport. We're just grown-up bullies. We literally could not need to have our hearts more open than in these times."
But Jen, like Jason (who divorced 30 Rock writer Kay Cannon in 2010), is grateful to be where she is today. "And look how far we've come!" she said, before adorably adding, "High five!"
High fives all around! And props to Jen for being a girl's girl with a good heart...who also got a great guy.