Robin Thicke Hasn't Seen Paula Patton in Four Months, Says His Wife "Deserves to Have a Great Life"

"I changed, and I got a little too selfish, a little too greedy and little too full of myself," the singer says

By Zach Johnson Jul 02, 2014 11:45 AMTags

Where in the world is Paula Patton?

The actress hasn't been photographed in public since April, and her estranged husband hasn't spent any time with her, either. "I haven't seen her for four months," Robin Thicke revealed during a Hot 97 radio interview Tuesday. "We're cool. She's the best girl in the world, a great mother and still a good friend, but because we just weren't ever together anymore and I still had so much I wanted to apologize for and things I wanted to take responsibility for, so that's pretty much what the album's about. But I also want to wish her well and let her know that she's a great person and she deserves to have a good life."

Paula is a testament to that notion. "The album is exactly what happens when you lose the love of your life and you're trying to figure it out in your head to move on and get through it all," the musician said.

The lyrics are heartfelt. "Sometimes it's about her and sometimes I'm talking directly to her," he said.

If Thicke had his way, he'd reunite with his high school sweetheart ASAP. "If you've been together that long, you kind of became adults together instead of being adults and then meeting," he said. If he and Patton take the time to grow as individuals, the singer-songwriter thinks reconciling is possible: "Maybe a year or two off, we'll become our own people without each other and then it will be meant to be."

Celebrating the massive success of "Blurred Lines" was initially exciting, but in hindsight, Thicke admitted he had "a little too much" fun. In regard to his marital separation, he explained, "We had an amazing time together, but I just think right now, this is what's best for our child and for ourselves."

What went wrong in their relationship? "I changed, and I got a little too selfish, a little too greedy and little too full of myself," Thicke explained. The 37-year-old "Give It 2 U" singer also admitted, "At this point in our relationship, the only reason we're not together is because of the choices I made...We're apart because we just couldn't be together anymore for awhile. There's a hundred different reasons."

Thicke, who is no longer wearing his wedding ring, took responsibility for mistakes he made during their marriage. "I'm a man. I messed up and I had to lie for a while, and then I stopped lying," he said. "That was actually good for me because I was tired of lying. This whole album is me revealing everything."

Patton, 38, hasn't listened the album in its entirety, he revealed. "I don't think she wants to hear it right now," he said. "I can't speak for her, but I think space is an important part of any healing process."

It's been a sobering few months for Thicke. "When you lose your family, that'll slow you down," he said.

With his marriage in a state of flux, he's focusing on his career for now. "My music is my therapy. When I make these songs and I listen back to them, they make me feel good about myself because at least I'm admitting my faults," the star said. "I'm trying to become a better man and better person, better father."

While Thicke hasn't seen his estranged wife in recent months, he has spent time with her family.

"All of our families are still very much in love," he said. "I invite her mom over for dinner and we have dinners together. She'll take the kid to visit my uncle and aunt. But right now, we just don't hang out."