Prince Charles, Prince of Wales, Camilla Duchess of Cornwall

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Just weeks before their anniversary, England's charming prince waxed poetic about his bride. "It's always nice to have somebody on your side," opined the royal, calling his wife "an enormous support" who's never afraid to offer a gentle ribbing. "It's always marvelous to have somebody who, you know, you feel understands and wants to encourage. Although she certainly pokes fun if I get too serious about things. And all that helps."


But really, Duchess Camilla's most valuable trait may be her enduring spirit. As the other woman in Prince Charles' marriage to the beloved Princess Diana, the 70-year-old has been vilified by the public—and her own mother-in-law. In his new book, Rebel Prince: The Power, Passion and Defiance of Prince Charles, author Tom Bower details how Queen Elizabeth II denounced the romance, labeling Camilla as "that wicked woman." And yet despite the vitriol, Camilla has remained devoted to Charles for the better part of five decades—and throughout most of her own 21-year marriage to British army officer Andrew Parker Bowles. "You can imagine it is a real, real challenge," Charles, 69, acknowledged in a 2015 interview with CNN International. "But she's, I think, been brilliant in the way she's tackled these things."

She certainly dazzled at their initial meeting. Introduced by mutual friend Lucia Santa Cruz at a 1970 polo match, a 23-year-old Camilla Shand walked up to the royal and hit him with a bold opening line. Referencing Alice Keppel's affair with King Edward VII, "She says to him: ‘Oh you know your great grandfather and my great grandmother were lovers,'' childhood pal Broderick Munro Wilson recalled in a 2005 Dateline NBC report. "'How about it?'" 

 

Her brazenness worked. "He loved the fact that she smiled with her eyes as well as her mouth, and laughed at the same silly things as he did," Penny Junor revealed in her book, The Duchess: The Untold Story. "He also liked that she was so natural and easy and friendly, not in any way overawed by him, not fawning or sycophantic. In short, he was very taken with her, and after that first meeting he began ringing her up."

 

Though intense, their initial romance was short-lived. Charles' decision to join the Royal Navy strained their union as did the public's perception that the onetime receptionist lacked several necessary attributes. She had no royal lineage in her blood and, "She wasn't a virgin," royal biographer Chris Wilson told Dateline, "and back in the early 1970s, weird as it seems, we wanted to have a Princess of Wales who'd never been to bed with anyone else."

 

Author and Camilla pal William Shawcross argued their main issue was that she simply fell for Parker Bowles: "I know that she loved Andrew very much."

Prince Charles, Camilla the Duchess of Cornwall, Christmas

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Charles—serving in the Caribbean—was hardly enamored when he learned his former paramour was set to wed. "It seemed to him particularly cruel," detailed Junor, "he wrote in one letter, that after 'such a blissful, peaceful and mutually happy relationship,' fate had decreed that it should last a mere six months."

 

The duo remained close as Camilla welcomed son Tom (fun fact: Charles was named his godfather!) and then daughter Laura, and eventually in the late 1970s, according to reports, resumed their romance. Wilson even claims the union had the blessing of Camilla's spouse. "The English aristocracy like to serve their royal family," he told Dateline, "and Andrew Parker Bowles was prepared to lay down his wife for his country. It was perfectly okay."

 

But the arrangement didn't suit everyone. As Charles courted—and quite quickly wed—Lady Diana Spencer, the former kindergarten teacher became suspicious of her man's close friend, even requesting Camilla not attend their 3,500-guest 1981 affair at St. Paul's Cathedral. And though the late princess has described the time that followed their vows—including the arrival of Prince William and Prince Harry—as "some of the happiest years," by 1989 she knew she had to address the so-called Camilla problem. 

In what she labeled "one of the bravest moments" of her marriage in Andrew Morton's 1992 biography, Diana: Her True Story, the princess confronted Camilla as she was celebrating the 40th birthday of her sister Annabel. Showing up uninvited, Diana, boldly interrupted a chat between Camilla, Charles and a male friend, explaining she needed a quick word. "The voice inside me had said, 'just go for it,'" Diana later recalled in a taped conversation. "I said, 'I know what's going on between you and Charles and I just want you to know that.'" An undaunted Camila didn't flinch. "She said to me, 'You've got everything you ever wanted. You've got all the men in the world fall in love with you and you've got two beautiful children, what more do you want?'" remembered Diana. "So I said, 'I want my husband.' I said to Camilla, 'I'm sorry I'm in the way…and it must be hell for both of you. But I do know what's going on. Don't treat me like an idiot.'"

 

Soon, playing dumb was no longer an option. In a November 1992 incident dubbed "Camillagate" media outlets released private tapes of an intimate phone conversation between Charles and Camilla. Throughout the sultry eight-minute bedtime chat, Charles said he longed to be—of all things—Camila's tampon, and gushed that he loved her. The broadcast of those three little words marked the official end of Charles and Diana's union. Within a month, Prime Minister John Major announced they had separated.

St George's Chapel, Prince Charles, Wedding, Camilla Parker Bowles

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Though Camilla wouldn't announce the official end of her marriage to Parker Bowles for three years, the tapes' release meant everyone could stop playing coy. In a 1994 interview, Charles came clean about his adultery, insisting he strived to remain faithful to Diana, "until it became clear that the marriage had irretrievably broken down." Diana's take was more succinct. Though she copped to an affair with polo player James Hewitt, she famously explained their main issue to Martin Bashir in a BBC interview: "There were three of us in the marriage, so it was a bit crowded."

 

Once Diana gracefully exited stage left, Charles and Camilla were eager to become an official party of two. But first they had to deal with the backlash. Bower reveals Charles began campaigning for the public's approval, but his toughest critic was at home. According to Bower, Charles confronted his mom one night in 1995 as they gathered in the sitting room at the family's Scottish Balmoral estate, pleading with her not to interfere in the relationship. But the matriarch, several martinis deep, wasn't having it. "To Charles' surprise she replied forcefully: she would not condone his adultery, nor forgive Camilla for not leaving Charles alone to allow his marriage to recover," Bower writes. "She vented her anger that he had lied about his relationship with what he called, ‘That wicked woman,' and added, ‘I want nothing to do with her.'"

The pair's uphill battle only grew steeper after the People's Princess perished in a 1997 car crash. Immediately after learning of his ex-wife's death, Charles worried about the fallout. Detailed Bower, "Charles was chanting, ‘They're all going to blame me, aren't they? The world's going to go completely mad.'"

Enraged, really. For years, as they tried to rebuild their relationship, the duo faced overwhelming criticism. According to Wilson, Diana supporters even went as far to throw bread rolls at Camilla as she browsed a supermarket. "It was horrid," Camilla recalled in a 2017 interview with The Mail on Sunday's You magazine. "It was a deeply unpleasant time and I wouldn't want to put my worst enemy through it."

 

But even at her lowest, notes pal William Shawcross, she never went on the offensive. "She's always been discreet and she has never sought to answer back," he told Dateline. "She has never sort of stooped if you like to say: ‘I must have my day on the front of the tabloid press' and I think that's a terrific sign of strength on her part."

 

Her tack, instead, was to focus on charity (among her pet projects: The National Osteoporosis Society, literacy and preventing sexual violence) and slowly inching her way into the spotlight with Charles. A year after Diana's death, she met William and Harry. The following year, they pair formally went public, exiting her sister's birthday party together as 200 photographers clamored to capture the moment. By 2000, she had scaled her biggest hurdle yet. After years of refusing to attend the same events as Camilla—even blowing off Charles' 50th birthday in 1998—the Queen deigned to be in the same room as her son's girlfriend, RSVP'ing yes to a celebration for King Constantine of Greece.

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Still, her cold front didn't thaw completely. The Queen and husband Prince Phillip skipped out on the pair's 2005 civil ceremony at Windsor Guildhall—"Charles was inconsolable," Bower writes in his book—but did make an appearance at the Service of Prayer and Dedication at St. George Chapel at Windsor Castle (the same place Harry and Meghan Markle will wed) and the reception that followed.

More than a decade after their long-awaited wedding, Camilla admits she's still adjusting to her new role. (She adopted the title Duchess of Cornwall as Princess of Wales was thought to be too closely associated with Diana. Should Charles become King, it's believed she'd be known as Princess consort, not Queen Camilla.) "You also have to laugh at yourself because if you can't, you may as well give up," she explained to You. "I sometimes think to myself, 'Who is this woman? It can't possibly be me.' And that's really how you survive. Also, having so many friends who, if I ever even vaguely look like getting uppity, which touch wood I never have, they would just say, 'Look, come on, pull yourself together! Don't be so bloody grand!'"

And then there's her love of nearly 50 years. "They're fun," insists her pal Shawcross. "They are a cozy couple. They laugh at each other's jokes, they support each other they have fun together. They sort of wink across the table."

 

Their playfulness just works, says writer Kathy Lette, who's met the "rye and dry" duchess. Noting to Dateline that their love story isn't a fairytale, she called it "a reality tale," explaining "that's what makes it so good. They're old enough, they're experienced enough to know that this is what they really, really want. And I think that this one will absolutely last."

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