Inside King Charles and Queen Camilla's Epic Love Story: From Other Woman to Queen

For King Charles and Queen Camilla the long journey from England's most hated pair to reigning royals began with her undeniable charm and a heap of patience.

By Sarah Grossbart May 07, 2023 12:00 AMTags
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Just weeks before their tenth anniversary, England's charming prince waxed poetic about his bride.

"It's always nice to have somebody on your side," opined the royal in 2015, calling his wife "an enormous support" who's never afraid to offer a gentle ribbing. "It's always marvelous to have somebody who, you know, you feel understands and wants to encourage. Although she certainly pokes fun if I get too serious about things. And all that helps."

But really, Queen Camilla's most valuable trait may be her enduring spirit.

As the oft-named other woman in King Charles III's marriage to the beloved Princess Diana, the former Duchess of Cornwall spent years being vilified by the public—and her own mother-in-law—before emerging out the other side with her romance and dignity still in tact.

And now she has a shiny new title to show for it, officially crowned alongside her husband at his May 6 coronation

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My, what a difference a few decades makes.

In his 2018 book, Rebel Prince: The Power, Passion and Defiance of Prince Charles, author Tom Bower detailed how Queen Elizabeth II once denounced the relationship, labeling Camilla as "that wicked woman." It wasn't until February 2022 that the late monarch expressed her "sincere wish" for her daughter-in-law to one day be known as queen consort.

"You can imagine it is a real, real challenge," Charles acknowledged in a 2015 interview with CNN International. "But she's, I think, been brilliant in the way she's tackled these things."

Because on May 6—weeks after some 2,000 guests received cards inviting them to the "Coronation of Their Majesties King Charles III & Queen Camilla"— she was presented with the Queen Consort's ring and a revamped Queen Mary's Crown, originally made for King George V's wife in 1911, placed on her head. 

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Best of all, she did it all with her groom of 18 years by her side. 

"I don't care what anyone says. This wasn't any sort of end game," her son Tom Parker Bowles said in rare remarks given on the April 20 episode of The News Agents. Quite simply, he continued, "She married the person she loved and this is what happened."

As pals tell it, the future duchess dazzled from their first meeting.

Introduced by mutual friend Lucia Santa Cruz at a 1970 polo match, a 23-year-old Camilla Shand was said to have walked up to the royal and hit him with a bold opening line. Referencing Alice Keppel's affair with King Edward VII, "She says to him: 'Oh you know your great-grandfather and my great-grandmother were lovers,'' childhood pal Broderick Munro Wilson recalled in a 2005 Dateline NBC report. "'How about it?'" 


While biographer Penny Junor insists it was actually Santa Cruz coming through with the brazenness, introducing the pair by saying, "Now you two be very careful, you've got genetic antecedents—careful, careful!", either way the move worked. 

"He loved the fact that she smiled with her eyes as well as her mouth, and laughed at the same silly things as he did," Junor revealed in her book, The Duchess: The Untold Story. "He also liked that she was so natural and easy and friendly, not in any way overawed by him, not fawning or sycophantic. In short, he was very taken with her, and after that first meeting he began ringing her up."


Though intense, their initial romance was short-lived. Charles' decision to join the Royal Navy strained their bond as did the public's perception that the onetime receptionist lacked several necessary attributes. She had no royal lineage in her blood and, "She wasn't a virgin," royal biographer Chris Wilson told Dateline, "and back in the early 1970s, weird as it seems, we wanted to have a Princess of Wales who'd never been to bed with anyone else."

Author and Camilla pal William Shawcross argued, however, that their main issue was she simply fell for future husband Andrew Parker Bowles: "I know that she loved Andrew very much."

While she may have been enamored, Charles, serving in the Caribbean at the time, felt crushed when he learned his former paramour was set to wed. Detailed Junor, "It seemed to him particularly cruel, he wrote in one letter, that after 'such a blissful, peaceful and mutually happy relationship,' fate had decreed that it should last a mere six months."

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But the duo remained close as Camilla welcomed son Tom (the prince even being named as a godfather) and then daughter Laura—and eventually in the late 1970s, according to reports, their romance resumed.

Wilson even claims the union had the blessing of Camilla's spouse. "The English aristocracy like to serve their royal family," he told Dateline, "and Andrew Parker Bowles was prepared to lay down his wife for his country. It was perfectly okay."

And yet the arrangement didn't suit everyone.

As Charles courted—and quite quickly wed—Lady Diana Spencer, the former kindergarten teacher became suspicious of her man's close friend, even requesting Camilla not attend their 3,500-guest nuptials at St. Paul's Cathedral in 1981.

And though the late princess has described the time that followed their vows—including the arrival of Prince William and Prince Harry—as "some of the happiest years," by 1989 she knew she had to address the so-called Camilla problem. 

In what she labeled "one of the bravest moments" of her marriage in Andrew Morton's 1992 biography, Diana: Her True Story, the princess confronted Camilla as she was celebrating the 40th birthday of her sister Annabel.

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Showing up uninvited, Diana boldly interrupted a chat between Camilla, Charles and a male friend, explaining she needed a quick word. "The voice inside me had said, 'just go for it,'" Diana later recalled in a taped conversation given to Morton. "I said, 'I know what's going on between you and Charles and I just want you to know that.'" 

An undaunted Camila didn't flinch. "She said to me, 'You've got everything you ever wanted. You've got all the men in the world to fall in love with you and you've got two beautiful children, what more do you want?'" remembered Diana. "So I said, 'I want my husband.' I said to Camilla, 'I'm sorry I'm in the way…and it must be hell for both of you. But I do know what's going on. Don't treat me like an idiot.'"

Soon, playing dumb was no longer an option.

In a November 1992 incident dubbed "Camillagate", media outlets released private tapes of an intimate phone conversation between Charles and Camilla. Throughout the sultry eight-minute bedtime chat, Charles said he longed to be—of all things—Camila's tampon, and gushed that he loved her.

The broadcast of those three little words marked the official end of Charles and Diana's union. Within a month, Prime Minister John Major announced they had separated.

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Though Camilla wouldn't officially end her marriage to Parker Bowles for three years, the tapes' release meant everyone could stop playing coy. In a 1994 interview, Charles came clean about his adultery, insisting he strived to remain faithful to Diana, "until it became clear that the marriage had irretrievably broken down."

Diana's take was more succinct. Though she copped to an affair with polo player James Hewitt, she famously explained their main issue to Martin Bashir in a now-controversial BBC interview: "There were three of us in the marriage, so it was a bit crowded."

Once Diana exited, Charles and Camilla were eager to become an official party of two. But first they had to deal with the inevitable and, at times, seemingly insurmountable, backlash. Bower revealed in his book that Charles soon began campaigning for the public's approval, but his toughest critic was at home.

According to Bower, Charles confronted his mom one night in 1995 as they gathered in the sitting room at the family's Scottish Balmoral estate, pleading with her not to interfere in the relationship.

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But the matriarch, several martinis deep, wasn't having it. "To Charles' surprise she replied forcefully: she would not condone his adultery, nor forgive Camilla for not leaving Charles alone to allow his marriage to recover," Bower wrote. "She vented her anger that he had lied about his relationship with what he called, 'That wicked woman,' and added, 'I want nothing to do with her.'"

The pair's uphill battle only grew steeper after Diana was killed in a 1997 car crash. Immediately after learning of his ex-wife's death, Charles worried about the fallout. Detailed Bower, "Charles was chanting, 'They're all going to blame me, aren't they? The world's going to go completely mad.'"

Enraged, really. For years, as he and Camilla tried to rebuild their relationship, the duo faced overwhelming criticism. According to Wilson, loyal supporters of the late People's Princess even went so fa as to throw bread rolls at Camilla as she browsed a supermarket. "It was horrid," Camilla recalled in a 2017 interview with The Mail on Sunday's You magazine. "It was a deeply unpleasant time and I wouldn't want to put my worst enemy through it."

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But even at her lowest, notes pal William Shawcross, she never went on the offensive. "She's always been discreet and she has never sought to answer back," he told Dateline. "She has never sort of stooped, if you like to say, 'I must have my day on the front of the tabloid press,' and I think that's a terrific sign of strength on her part."

Her tack, instead, was to focus on charity (among her pet projects: The National Osteoporosis Society, literacy and preventing sexual violence) and slowly inching her way into the spotlight with Charles.

A year after Diana's death, she met William and Harry. The following year, they pair formally went public, exiting her sister's birthday party together as 200 photographers clamored to capture the moment.

By 2000, she had scaled her biggest hurdle yet. After years of refusing to attend the same events as Camilla—even blowing off Charles' 50th birthday in 1998—the Queen deigned to be in the same room as her son's girlfriend, RSVP'ing yes to a celebration for King Constantine of Greece.

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Still, her cold front didn't thaw completely. When the couple finally wed in 2005, the Queen and husband Prince Phillip skipped out on the civil ceremony at Windsor Guildhall—"Charles was inconsolable," Bower wrote in his book—but did make an appearance at the Service of Prayer and Dedication at St. George's Chapel at Windsor Castle (where Harry and Meghan Markle would also wed in 2018) and the reception that followed.

In toasting the newlyweds, the Queen famously referenced the steeplechase that was delayed 25 minutes so the BBC could televise the prayer service. "I have two important announcements to make," she told the guests. "The first is that Hedgehunter has won the Grand National."

Following the metaphor to its conclusion, she continued, "They have overcome Becher's Brook and The Chair and all kinds of other terrible obstacles. They have come through, and I'm very proud and wish them well. My son is home and dry with the woman he loves."

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More than a decade after their long-awaited wedding, Camilla admitted she was still adjusting to her new role. 

"You also have to laugh at yourself because if you can't, you may as well give up," she explained to You. "I sometimes think to myself, 'Who is this woman? It can't possibly be me.' And that's really how you survive. Also, having so many friends who, if I ever even vaguely look like getting uppity, which touch wood I never have, they would just say, 'Look, come on, pull yourself together! Don't be so bloody grand!'"

She adopted the title Duchess of Cornwall, as Princess of Wales was thought to be too closely associated with Diana and for years the public was told that when Charles became king, she would be known as a princess consort, rather than queen. 

Though, obviously, things change. 

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"It's now 21 years since the death of Diana in 1997 and public attitudes have changed, and continues to do so, with a greater acceptance of Camilla today," Dickie Arbiter, the Queen's former press spokesman, opined to Hello! in 2018. "The Duchess through her work has shown herself to be a good support to her husband and to the Queen thus making her not only an asset to the country but to the institution of monarchy." 

That became an increasingly popular assessment. Speaking to Vanity Fair's James Reginato in 2018 for his profile on Charles, a self-described London man-about-town, known to socialize with the royal set, outlined the reasons Camilla is particularly suited for the role. "She never complains, she never explains," noted the source. "She's not an intellectual, but there's nothing lightweight about her. She's not a bulls--tter and she doesn't take any bulls--t." 

Highlighting the more than 90 charities she supports was key in flipping public opinion of the duchess, but it likely wouldn't have worked if Camilla wasn't so darn likable. 

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Even the more jaded participants of the royal rota, the press corps members tasked to cover the goings on of the royal family on a daily basis, have a soft spot for Duchess Camilla. "We think the world of her, we adore her. She's an amazing woman," Sun photographer Arthur Edwards, who famously snapped Diana on a bench in front of the Taj Mahal during his 41 years cataloging the royals, told Reginato. "She always shows up with a great smile and is never, ever grumpy."

Another correspondent called her "my favorite royal, by a country mile. She knows all our names, she fosters a sense that we're all in this together. She gives you a little gleam in her eye and will find a moment to look at our cameras."

And then there's the effect she's had on her groom. "She's made a massive difference in him," one longtime correspondent told Reginato. "He's much more relaxed now. They are always laughing and chatting, they have a great affection and humor between them." 

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It's a magnetism even a casual observer can sense, with Charles regularly referring to his bride as "my darling wife". When photographer Alexi Lubomirski, the same man tapped to shoot Harry and Meghan's wedding, arrived at Clarence House to take portraits of the pair for Vanity Fair, "As soon as they looked at each other, there was a sparkle in their eyes—that's when the magic happened," he noted. "You feel like they are a young couple in love."  

According to pal Shawcross, "They are a cozy couple. They laugh at each other's jokes, they support each other they have fun together. They sort of wink across the table."

Their playfulness just works, says writer Kathy Lette, who's met the "rye and dry" duchess. Noting to Dateline that their love story isn't a fairy tale, she called it "a reality tale," explaining "that's what makes it so good. They're old enough, they're experienced enough to know that this is what they really, really want."

(Originally published on March 28, 2018 at 8 a.m. PT.)