Candace Cameron Bure Further Clarifies Comments About Being "Submissive" to Husband

Former Full House star says some people are thinking of it in terms of a "perverted, Fifty Shades of Grey kind of definition

By Peter Gicas Jan 10, 2014 3:25 PMTags
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Candace Cameron Bure certainly got people talking this week when it was revealed that in her new book, Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose, she opens up about her "submissive" role as wife to husband Valeri Bure.

The former Full House star writes in her book, "I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work."

Candace proceeded to clarify the meaning behind her use of the word "submissive" during a recent appearance on HuffPost Live, telling host Nancy Redd, "The definition I'm using with the word 'submissive' is the biblical definition of that. So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength. And that's what I choose to have in my marriage."

Not surprising, the mother-of-three's conservative views quickly became a hot topic of conversation, both for and against.

So, Candace found herself, once again, addressing the issue on Thursday, Jan. 9.

"I think this word sounds so ugly to so many people, especially when they don't understand the biblical definition of the word," she said to HLN's Vinnie Politan. "I think they're thinking of it in terms of a perverted, Fifty Shades of Grey kind of definition, or an oppression, or even a dictatorship. And that is not what I'm talking about."

She noted, "Submitting to my husband just means allowing my husband to lead his family because he loves our family, and making the best decisions for our family that he can, and for me to respect those decisions and to encourage him to be the best man and father that he can possibly be to our family."

Candace went on to say that she did not expect the word to stir up this much controversy.

"We have a marriage in which we want to honor God, both my husband does and I do, and so I'm explaining that, but this little word in there is causing everyone to get into a tizzy about it."

She added, "I've had so much support from my followers and my fans and it's wonderful. A lot of people agree, and they say that the people who are in disagreement are being very ugly and spewing venom towards me about it, simply don't understand the definition in which I'm using the word and their eyes are not seeking the biblical blueprint of marriage. So, I don't expect them to understand it, and I do expect them to be upset over it because they're thinking about it from a different world view than I am."