Selena Gomez Reveals What She's Looking for in a Relationship Amid Benny Blanco Romance

Selena Gomez shared what qualities she looks for in her partner amid her budding romance with music producer Benny Blanco.

By Brahmjot Kaur Dec 21, 2023 8:46 PMTags
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Selena Gomez is sick of that same old love because now, she knows what she's looking for. 

Not long after the "Hands to Myself" singer confirmed her relationship with music producer Benny Blanco, she reflected on the important qualities needed in a romantic partner.

"Honestly," Selena admitted to Vogue México y Latinoamérica in an interview published Dec. 21 and translated by E! News, "I have to start being attracted to the right kind of people."

And what exactly does that mean for the Rare Beauty founder? Well, being with someone who cultivates a space for self-respect and healthy communication.

"It's very hard to find someone who can listen to you and care about you," she explained in the interview, which took place prior to her announcing her new relationship. "But I know when it happens it will be great and you will want it to be healthy."

And it definitely did happen.

Selena Gomez Through the Years

In fact, Selena, who poked fun at her single status for months—including in her music—proved she wouldn't be single anytime soon. After all, she announced her and Benny's romance on social media in early December, sharing a PDA-packed snap of her and the "Eastside" musician the following week.


But the 31-year-old—who was previously linked to Justin Bieber and The Weeknd—also emphasized that she doesn't necessarily regret her past relationships.

"I firmly believe that everything in my life happens for a reason," Selena noted. "I always try to say: ‘What's the lesson here? I want to learn the lesson and I want to grow from this.'" and 

She added, "I want to experience what it's like to get through those moments that are really difficult."

Loving their budding romance like a love song? Keep reading to learn more about the love lives of other singers.

Ashanti and Nelly

The two dated on and off between 2003 and 2013, then rekindled their romance in 2023. In April 2024, Ashanti announced the two were engaged and that she was pregnant. This will be her first child.

Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra

The pair tied the knot in December 2018 and later welcomed daughter Malti Marie in January 2022.

"Family is a big part of my life. It's always been a part of my dreams," Priyanka told E! News' Daily Pop in January 2021, with Nick adding the next month, "We're blessed to have each other and have a full heart for the future."

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco

The "Lose You to Love Me" singer debuted her romance with the music producer in December 2023, writing in an Instagram comment, "He is my absolute everything in my heart."

Selena—who previously dated Justin Bieber and The Weekndhas known Benny for at least eight years, as they worked together on her 2015 Revival tracks "Same Old Love" and "Kill Em With Kindness."

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce

The Grammy winner saw sparks fly with the Kansas City Chiefs football player during the cruel summer of 2023.

“This all started when Travis very adorably put me on blast on his podcast, which I thought was metal as hell,” she told TIME in December 2023. “We started hanging out right after that. So we actually had a significant amount of time that no one knew, which I’m grateful for, because we got to get to know each other. By the time I went to that first game, we were a couple. I think some people think that they saw our first date at that game? We would never be psychotic enough to hard launch a first date.”

Miley Cyrus and Maxx Morando

The Hannah Montana alum has been getting flowers from the Liily drummer since 2021.

"It's official between them," a source told E! News in January 2022, with a second insider adding, "They are both artistic and creative, so they bond over being musicians."

Harry Styles and Taylor Russell

The One Direction alum seemingly kicked off his golden romance with the Bones and All actress in 2023 following his split from Olivia Wilde. Harry and Taylor were spotted holding hands in London in September 2023, and he attended her final West End performance in The Effect the following month.

Beyoncé and Jay-Z

The music legends tied the knot on April 4, 2008 and went on to welcome daughter Blue Ivy on January 7, 2012 and twins Rumi and Sir on June 13, 2017.

"I was 20 years old when we first started dating," Bey told Jay-Z on his birthday in 2006. "You taught me how to be a woman. You taught me how to live. You taught me how to be a friend. You've given me so much in life."

Adele and Rich Paul

The singer said hello to a new romance when she reconnected with the sports agent in 2021. Later that year, she praised him as "hilarious" and "very smart" during her CBS special, noting, "It's quite incredible watching him do what he does and just the easiness of it and very smooth."

As Adele told The Hollywood Reporter in December 2023, "Rich and I have always known everything about each other since the day we got together." 

Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater

After news broke of Ariana's split with husband Dalton Gomez in July 2023, she said "thank u, next" and started a relationship with her Wicked costar, who officially filed for divorce from his wife Lilly Jay in September 2023.

Demi Lovato and Jutes

The couple met while working on her 2022 single "Substance" and she debuted her romance with the "Too Easy" artist in August 2022.

"We worked really well together and we're also just super in love," the Disney alum said on The Jennifer Hudson Show in December 2023. "It's amazing to find someone that you just laugh with and that you get to make music with."

A$AP Rocky and Rihanna

They found love after first meeting over a decade ago. The singers performe d"Cockiness" at the MTV Video Music Awards and grew closer over the years. Things seemed to turn romantic by 2018, when they cozied up at a Louis Vuitton fashion show. 

The couple welcomed son RZA in May 2022 and baby boy Riot Rose in August 2023.

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck

Her love didn't cost a thing—except 20 years' wait. Though they originally got engaged in November 2002, Ben and J.Lo ultimately broke up and spent years apart. Their rekindled romance took off, with a second engagement in April 2022 and tied the knot just three months later.

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