Paula Patton still doesn't know why people were texting her things like "praying for you" the day after the MTV Video Music Awards.
"It doesn't affect me anymore at all," she said during a sit-down on E! News today with Giuliana Rancic and Terrence Jenkins, talking about Miley Cyrus' twerk-and-grind performance at the VMAs—which, as Miley reminded folks in her recent Rolling Stone interview, also included Robin Thicke.
"It's just so funny," Paula continued, "because when I saw him perform I was like, 'yYou guys killed it!' We hugged each other, we went out, celebrated. The next day, my cell phone [has] all these texts: 'Praying for you.' 'If you need to talk, I'm here.'" Etc.
"It was all about the Miley thing and I thought, Why are people making such a big deal about it? Quite frankly, all my friends dance like that with him. He's like the guy that you can dance with, 'cause he's safe!"
Miley mentioned in her RS interview that, while she was getting all the grief after the VMAs, "No one is talking about the man behind the ass. It was a lot of 'Miley twerks on Robin Thicke,' but never, 'Robin Thicke grinds up on Miley.' They're only talking about the one that bent over. So obviously there's a double standard."
Asked about the "Wrecking Ball" singer's remarks, Paula said she "didn't want to make a big deal out of it."
"Listen, I think Miley's a really cool girl and it's not fair between men and women," she said cautiously, "but he certainly didn't take her and back her up into him...If that's how she feels I totally understand. Robin can handle it."
That's pretty level-headed talk coming from someone who once did a little spying on her man when she suspected that he was up to no good—a none-too-proud moment she was reminded of when she was shooting her new romantic comedy, Baggage Claim, in which she hides in a trash can to spy on the love of her life.
"We weren't married yet," Paula explained. "We were boyfriend and girlfirend and I heard something on the phone and I was like, 'Hmph, I don't trust it.' So I went down to his house and I was crawling through the bushes trying to look through the window...
"Totally got caught, he was with his boys playing poker. He was like, 'Hey babe, wanna come in? Look around, no, make yourself at home!' I was mortified. I'm also happy I was wrong, I'm not gonna lie. But he was like, 'You're a little crazy.'"
Just the right amount of crazy, though—the couple, together since Paula was 15, have now been married for about eight years and are parents to son Julian, 3.
And the actress is good with how things are.
"I don't know," she said about the possibility of having another child. "I never like to say never, but right now I feel like I have my hands full. We're the three muskateers and so I have to take care of my man, I have to take care of my son and I do love being an actress...and so for right now, I'm very, very happy."
See more of our exclusive chat with Paula tonight on E! News at 7 p.m. & 11:30 p.m.