Reese Witherspoon: "The Most Horrifying Thing Someone Has Ever Said to Me in My Entire Life"

Oscar winner sits down with Marie Claire and reveals the most hurtful advice proffered in the wake of her split from Ryan Phillippe

By Gina Serpe Sep 07, 2011 5:43 PMTags
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Who's been messing with America's Sweetheart?!

While Reese Witherspoon didn't give that away when she sat down with Marie Claire recently to cover the magazine's October issue (she's a lady, after all), she did reveal the worst, most hurtful piece of supposed advice that was given to her in the wake of her difficult divorce from Ryan Phillippe

"You know, somebody close to me once said, 'Oh, no man will ever accept your children,'" she explained. "And I just thought it was the most horrifying thing someone has ever said to me in my entire life.

"I was determined to find somebody who would make that not true. And I got lucky. I did. I got very lucky, and he's wonderful. And so wonderful with the children. I'm very blessed."

The wonderful, luck-bringing man of whom she speaks? That'd be new hubby Jim Toth, of course!

Reese told Marie Claire that her agent better half has not only brought her happiness, but helped lift a burden she didn't even realize she had been carrying.

"I was hard on myself when I got divorced," she said of her split five years ago from Phillippe, the father of her two children Ava and Deacon. "And until I got remarried, I don't think I realized how stressed I was. I feel so much relief. I don't think I recognized how anxious I was about being a single parent. It was really, really stressful. It's not easy on anybody.

"I think Nora Ephron says in one of her books, 'You know, don't kid yourself, divorce is really hard on your children. It's really hard. Children will not be better for it.'"

And while Witherspoon acknowledges that that may not be the case for everyone, she personally found the ordeal "traumatic."

"I mean, there are extenuating circumstances. I'm sure everybody's life is different, so I shouldn't say that. But it's really traumatic. Now I feel a great sense of relief and an incredible amount of support from my husband."

Chalk it up to the movie star mama overcoming yet another fear.

"I'm scared to speak in public," she admitted. "I used to not ever travel. I've gotten over so many phobias. Five years ago, I was terrified to travel. I was scared to leave my kids. It's still not the best feeling."

Though judging by her recent summer vacations (with her kids! Two birds, one stone) it seems she may have overcome that fear, too.