Sam Smith Opens Up About Being Gay, Reveals Album Is About a Guy Who Didn't Love Him Back

Brit singer talks about his sexuality and new music

By Brett Malec May 28, 2014 11:37 PMTags
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Sam Smith is opening up about his sexuality.

In a new interview with Fader, the 22-year-old breakout singer from Britain reveals that despite writing songs about love, he's never experienced it himself.

"I've never been in a relationship before," Smith admits. "I've only been in unrequited relationships where people haven't loved me back. I guess I'm a little bit attracted to that in a bad way. [My debut album] In the Lonely Hour is about a guy that I fell in love with last year, and he didn't love me back. I think I'm over it now, but I was in a very dark place. I kept feeling lonely in the fact that I hadn't felt love before. I've felt the bad things. And what's a more powerful emotion: pain or happiness?"

Smith says his unrequited love knows that his album is about their relationship.

"He does," the "Stay With Me" singer says. "I told him about it recently, and obviously it was never going to go the way I wanted it to go, because he doesn't love me. But it was good as a form of closure, to get it off my chest and tell him. I feel better for it. I feel almost like I signed off this part of my life where I keep giving myself to guys who are never going to love me back. It feels good to have interviews like this, to chat about it and put stuff to bed. It's all there now, and I can move on and hopefully find a guy who can love me the way I love him."

Smith says he has no problem talking publicly about being gay, but that he also doesn't understand why it's an issue.

"I am comfortable with myself, and my life is amazing in that respect," he says. "I'm very comfortable and happy with everything. I just wanted to talk about him and have it out there. It's about a guy and that's what I wanted people to know—I want to be clear that that's what it's about. I've been treated as normal as anyone in my life; I've had no issues. I do know that some people have issues in life, but I haven't, and it's as normal as my right arm. I want to make it a normality because this is a non-issue. People wouldn't ask a straight person these questions. I've tried to be clever with this album, because it's also important to me that my music reaches everybody. I've made my music so that it could be about anything and everybody—whether it's a guy, a female or a goat—and everybody can relate to that. I'm not in this industry to talk about my personal life unless it's in a musical form."