Melissa Gorga, Joe Gorga, VMAS

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Melissa Gorga's new book, Love Italian Style, is gaining tons of attention—but not necessarily the good kind.

The Real Housewives of New Jersey star has written an advice manual about the success of her marriage to husband Joe, but some find that her tips are controversial at best.

And you're about to find out why…

Joe candidly talks about what goes on behind closed doors in his household and offers some helpful pointers to men who are trying to land themselves a lovely housewife.

Let's not beat around the bush any further, here's some of the most controversial excerpts from the book:

Men, I know you think your woman isn't the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated. Women don't realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.

Melissa also talks about how sex is one of the most important tools in their relationship, and that it helps to keep their marriage alive:

In the beginning, Joe wanted to have sex every single day, at least once, if not twice or three times…If I didn't give it to him once a day, he'd get upset.

I can do something that pisses him off on a Monday, but if we had sex on Sunday night, it blows over more easily. But if we haven't done it for two days and I give him attitude? It could be a huge fight.

Melissa Gorga, Joe Gorga

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She also shares how a woman should be in order to keep her man happy:

[A] woman needs to keep herself in shape. She has to be seductive. She must be willing to try new things for her husband's pleasure and her own. And, most important, she has to be available for sex.

There's real passionate sex and maintenance sex. You need them both for a healthy marriage. Maintenance sex keeps the wheels greased, the lines of communication open, and the fights to a minimum.

But Melissa's tips didn't end there, she also clearly spells out how women should dress in a marriage:


[T]he one thing I've come to realize is that I need to take Joe into account when I get dressed.

I always wear what I want and what I like, but I also aspire to be eye candy for my husband.

Joe then weighs in on why he believes men look outside of a relationship and cheat on their ladies:

Refusing to initiate is a Top Three reason men cheat. The ugliest girl in the world could come on to a man in that state of mind, and he might have to go for it. He thinks, At least someone wants me.

But on a lighter note, Melissa joked about how maintaining a bit of mystery is healthy for a strong relationship:

Girls don't poop. Me, never have. Never will. It just doesn't happen. Or, that's what Joe thinks! We've been married for nine years, and he has never once seen or smelled my business. How have I pulled this off? I don't do it when he's around or awake. In an emergency, I have my ways of pooping so he won't hear, smell, or see. It's a challenge. 

What do you think of Melissa's advice on keeping a marriage strong? Weigh in below!

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