Emily Ratajkowski Discusses Love as a “Recently Single Person” After Sebastian Bear-McClard Split

Emily Ratajkowski shared her thoughts on important topics like the influence of the male gaze and sexism within relationships months after her split from husband Sebastian Bear-McClard.

By Daisy Maldonado Sep 07, 2022 12:27 AMTags
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Emily Ratajkowski is getting raw and honest about her outlook on love. 

The model—who split from husband Sebastian Bear-McClard in July after four years of marriage—has been sharing a slew of TikToks where she discusses sex, relationships, and the impact of a patriarchal society. 

In one of her most recent videos, Emily reacted to a clip of Esther Perel where she talked about  "the secret of female sexuality," in which the psychotherapist said, "If she can think about herself then she can be into it."

"This is so true," Emily replied in a Sept. 6 video, "and it's because women have internalized the male gaze so much that when we're having sex we're thinking about how hot or not we are."

Explaining her interest in these sorts of conversations, Emily added, "It's kind of crazy that women are so used to seeing women sexualized and sexualizing themselves that we're thinking of being sexualized during sex for lack of a better way of putting it."

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And while the sexualization of women has been one topic on Emily's mind lately, she's also been calling out issues such as the impact of sexism in relationships.

"Under a patriarchy, there's this premise of men 'getting women,' 'getting them,' 'pulling them' like there's something to posses," Emily explained in a Sept. 5 post. "As a recently single person who is thinking about dating and stuff, I've really seen that with my friends and with the conversations around it."

Emily added that those conversations should rather be focused on having a "reciprocal mutual relationship where two people could potentially foster love."

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She concluded, "That's why we don't have a lot of love in cis-hetro relationships."

While Emily, who shares her 17-month-old son Sylvester Apollo Bear with Sebastian, has yet to publicly discuss her breakup with the film producer, she clearly isn't afraid to use her voice.