Sex/Life’s Adam Demos Details the Not-So Sexy Reality of Filming Intimate Scenes

Actor Adam Demos revealed why it can feel "so mechanical" to film sex scenes, based on his time on UnREAL. The actor now appears on Netflix's Sex/Life with Sarah Shahi and Mike Vogel.

By Lindsay Weinberg Jul 06, 2021 12:14 AMTags
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As steamy as onscreen sex scenes may look to the untrained eye, Sex/Life star Adam Demos says they're really not all that sexy to shoot. 

The 36-year-old Australian actor was asked on The Kyle & Jackie O Show what it's actually like filming sex scenes, following his time on UnREAL in 2018.

"It's not, I mean, hopefully it looks convincing, but it's so mechanical, it's ridiculous," shared Adam, who now stars as Brad Simon on the Netflix show.

He explained that it's not as glamourous as some might think, saying, "People ask if you get carried away, but you've got sound guys and cameramen right around you with the big beards. That's a bit of a turn off." 

The hosts then asked if his co-star was nude while he was there filming UnREAL. "No, not at all," Adam replied. "It's a closed set, but you've got modesty... I look like a Ken doll, which is embarrassing." 

However, the Falling Inn Love star was, in fact, nude for his spiciest moments on Sex/Life.

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Sex/Life creator Stacy Rukeyser, who previously worked with Adam as a writer and producer on UnREAL, told Collider that no, "That's not a body double" in that shower scene. "I mean, people usually ask is it real or is it a prosthetic?" Stacy said, though she didn't quite answer that one, saying, "And I can tell you what Adam Demos says about it, which is, a gentleman never tells. So, we are leaving that up to the viewer's imagination."


He previously told Entertainment Weekly that he was "OK" with being nude onscreen, because he read the script and knew what he was getting into "from the start." As Adam explained, "That doesn't mean you can't have discussions about comfort level, which they allowed us to have—and with the intimacy coordinator, so it felt a lot safer."

As Netflix describes of Sex/Life: "A woman's daring sexual past collides with her married-with-kids present when the bad-boy ex she can't stop fantasizing about crashes back into her life." It's based on B.B. Easton's 2016 memoir, 44 Chapters About 4 Men.

Editor's Note (July 6, 2021 at 5:25 p.m. PST): A previous version of this article inaccurately described the context of Demos' comments. The article has been updated with additional information.