Eeeeeeeeeevery rose has its thorrrrrrrn.
Okay, it's trite, but it is starting to feel as though for every time Bachelor Nation giveth (consider us officially Team Tayshia and Zac), they taketh away in the form of stripping us of another beloved couple who'd long ago sucked us into their journey.
Truthfully, we hadn't fully absorbed the pre-holiday news that the love between one of the franchise's most delightfully quirky pairs had wilted, when 2020 struck one final blow.
Sure, Peter Weber's relationship with top five contender Kelley Flanagan had just gotten off the ground this spring after the airline pilot sped past that whole Hannah Ann Sluss-Madison Prewett debacle, but we had kinda assumed they'd reached the cruising altitude stage, considering their plans to move to New York City together and hints that a non Neil Lane-provided ring was in the offing.
So it was quite the jolt when the former Bachelor revealed on Instagram Dec. 31 that "while our relationship was filled with countless beautiful memories, our relationship simply didn't work out in the end."
Turns out the two had been experiencing turbulence for some time, their plans to cohabitate causing more anxiety than excitement. "They had been fighting a lot," a source explained to E! News, "and the move was very stressful and put a lot of pressure on them."
Or, as Chicago-based lawyer Flanagan put it on Jan. 3, "Him and I are in two different stages of our lives and saw our future paths differently."
And while we spent NYE pouring one out (a flute of champagne, that is) for ol' Pilot Pete, it's the breakup of Carly Waddell and Evan Bass—Guinness World holders for the longest habanero pepper kiss—that really stings.
A match made in Paradise that few saw coming after their awkward AF first date, the pair won us over with for their persistent-nice-guy-wins-in-the-end narrative and growing school of Bass children. And then they up and split seemingly out of nowhere, some three-and-a-half years after we all watched them wed on a Mexican beach.
One of the love stories that determined singles would cite as they entered Paradise filled with hope and visions of Instagram followers, Waddell and Bass now join a long list of once cherished duos whose bloom has come off the rose. As Bass' ex Marie Bass, mother to his three eldest boys, heads up his support squad, claiming that he and Waddell have been secretly split for more than a year while Bass tried desperately to save their union, Waddell is giving her own take on YouTube.
"We tried, ya'll, for a really long time to make it work," she shared in the Jan. 3 clip as she saged a spot in her new Nashville home that she'd dubbed the "divorce room." Ultimately, she insisted, it was his call to stop trying. "I'm just not the person who would ever be 'out,'" she explained. "So what are you going to do? If someone doesn't want to be with you, they don't want to be with you."
Oh, almost paradissssse. We're knocking on heaven's door...
At least they'll always have the Playa Escondida Resort. And we still have a not short list of couples that swear they can see forever in each other's eyes. So let's all raise a (champagne) glass to the Bachelor Nation pairs whose future is still looking rosy.
Lest the couple forget where their journey began, they need only walk past the master bedroom in their Dallas-area pad. That's where the graphic designer has framed the final final rose that season 17's Bachelor presented her back in that Thai forest in late 2012, right after he promised to tell her he loved her every day of the rest of their lives.
"It made sense to dry this one and make it permanent because it was accompanied by a ring and a proposal, so this is a really special thing," Catherine explained to Entertainment Tonight in 2017. Because that last rose ceremony, complete with an elephant ride and a $75,000 Neil Lane diamond, is as much part of their story as the the sweet, suburban life that followed with kids Samuel, 5, Isaiah, 3, and Mia, 2. "We don't want to shy away from the fact that we got engaged and fell in love on The Bachelor," she said, "so that is the only red rose I will allow in my house!"
The OG Bachelorette, Trista was the first to prove that a stint in the mansion could lead to love, marriage and even Bachelor babies. "Nowadays they shoot the show for, I believe, three months. So it's like 12 weeks," the author shared with Us Weekly of her 2003 season. "My show was shot in six weeks. So Ryan and I met, got engaged, got married a year later, after knowing each other for six weeks. So that's how it used to be."
Their decade years holding it down as the show's success story have taught the Colorado-based pair they can handle pretty much anything. Including months sheltering in place with their kids, son Maxwell, 14, and daughter Blakesley, 13. "It's really hard for us to get a date night. I think when the kids are working, we try to take advantage of that time as much as possible," she said of scheduling around the firefighter's early bird tendencies. "But yeah, we're good. We're 16 years and this too shall pass, as they say."
Who even remembers that the sweet divorced dad originally proposed to Melissa Rycroft? Okay, probably a lot of people, as his 2009 After the Final Rose switcheroo still ranks as one of the series' most shocking moments. But if all's well that end's well, the only thing that matters is that the Seattle-based parents to daughter Riley marked 10 years of marriage this past February.
"Let me apologize publicly again for putting you through the Bachelor mess that I created," Jason, also dad to teen Ty, wrote in an anniversary tribute. "With that being said... it built an incredible, unique, foundation for us to build our family—showing that we can make it through anything."
In true Bachelor fashion, native Tennesseean Peyton simply knew when she laid eyes on her future husband. Though it wasn't season 10 lead Andy Baldwin. Nearly four years after the naval officer sent her home, the Bachelor Pad alum turned up at another series-related event in 2010 and spied Chris, fresh off his showing as Ali Fedotowsky's runner-up. "It's one of those things where I've had a ton of serious relationships," she later explained to People, "and I met this kid and he was genuine, outgoing and hilarious and we just click."
By the following June, the landscaper was proposing at his home in Cape Cod. And more than a decade, two kids (daughter Lyla, 5, and son Hayes, 3) and a few HGTV and DIY Network shows later, they credit the series with laying their foundation. As Peyton put it in an August 2020 Instagram post, "Without the show I'm not sure our paths would have ever crossed."
For as much as the wedding dress designer seemed to key in on Brooks Forester during her 2013 season, it was sweet mortgage lender Chris and his thoughtful prose that proved to be the perfect fit. More than seven years after their L.A. vows (during which the Desiree Hartsock Bridal designer wore two of her own original creations) they're settled in Portland, Oregon, with sons Asher, 5, and Zander, 3.
"If our life were a storybook I would be the damsel in distress," the host of podcast Heart of Purpose surmised in a February 2020 post. "Chris would be the funny yet charming knight who saves the day, Asher would be the pragmatic problem solver while his little brother would be the carefree sidekick trying to kiss all the ladies!" And they would all enjoy a happy ending. As Desiree put it in a post acknowledging the choice of Clare Crawley as Bachelorette, "Reality TV worked for me!"
The gold standard in Paradise success stories, the married duo have inspired countless rose seekers to turn up in Mexico with visions of Neil Lane diamonds and Chris Harrison-officiated vows dancing in their heads. The couple's time on the spin-off's second season yielded both, and with son Reed's November 2020 arrival, they'll tie the Lowes for most Bachelor offspring.
"Life gets crazy sometimes," Jade wrote in a January anniversary post of juggling 4-year-old daughter Emmy and 2-year-old son Brooks, "but I wouldn't want to go through this hand-in-hand with anyone but you. I would choose you 1000 times over."
When the Bachelor in Paradise alum returned to the beaches of Nayarit, he was initially hesitant to pursue the Bachelor finalist, worried his peripatetic lifestyle wouldn't "mesh" with the former beauty queen's. But nearly three years (plus one brief breakup and a scary December 2019 ski accident that saw Dean laid up in Switzerland for weeks) later, they, and the van he calls home, are jelling just fine.
"Obviously I was wrong about that because things are going well," he shared on his podcast Help! I Suck at Dating in October 2019, months before they started wearing rings to show their shared commitment. Mostly, he appreciates that she has a healthy level of snark and the ability to handle his jokes. "I can be myself around her," he continued. "Which is a nice change."
Though he skipped the Neil Lane-sponsored proposal on Bachelor in Paradise in 2018, Kevin was ready to take a knee by the following fall, proposing in his native Toronto where he and Astrid share a home.
While they've since had to push off their planned November 2020 vows in her Florida hometown, "We're actually okay with it," Astrid wrote on Instagram, noting that making the decision to postpone due to the coronavirus pandemic allowed them to focus on their connection more than the myriad wedding details. "I wouldn't want to tackle 2020 & the rest of life with anyone else by my side." Now "back in the full swing of wedding planning," as she put it on Instagram, they'll wed this October just weeks before son August's first birthday.
When the Bachelorette duo took their love to Mexico for their August 2019 vows, they skipped the beaches of Nayarit for the rooftop of the Royalton Suites Cancun—and red roses for tasteful green and white florals. "Our wedding was about us. It was about the life we built together outside of [The Bachelorette]," she shared with People. "And we stayed true to who we are."
Even the most wishful of Bachelorette fans likely weren't betting on JoJo and Jordan's journey leading them to an altar. Because with the persistent rumors of the former Vanderbilt quarterback's ill intentions ramping up even before they took the stage for the requisite grin-and-gush After the Final Rose appearance in 2016, it seemed unlikely she would still be wearing her 3.75-carat Neil Lane diamond years later.
Which, she's not. But only because Jordan presented the real estate developer with an upgrade in August 2019. Though their summer 2020 wedding plans were scrapped due to the pandemic ("I know it will be all more worth the wait," JoJo wrote in a post acknowledging their would-be June day), they tied the knot in May 2022. "You make me laugh, love me endlessly, encourage me to be brave, and always, without fail, are my biggest cheerleader," the native Texan wrote in a post on their fourth anniversary. "Can't wait for what the rest of our lives have in store for us."
Consider Ashley the poster child for ignoring all of the standard he's-just-not-that-into-you signs. Because after four years of lusting for the guy she declared her dream man upon sight, she was proven right at their August 2019 vows in Newport, R.I.
Every bit as all-in as his bride, who welcomed their son Dawson in January, Jared reflected on their perfect day on Instagram, writing, "Ashley is my best friend, my person, my soulmate and now my wife. I love this woman more than words will ever allow me to express."
Who needs Neil Lane and a beach backdrop when you have this much imagination? The Dallas-based real estate agent went big when proposing to his Paradise love in May 2019. "She thought it was a normal shoot day," Adam told E! News of his plan to turn a set-up for her online boutique into an impromptu engagement session. "We were at the helicopter pad on the roof and Raven had roses in her hand. She was throwing the petals up for cute photos. She did a few practice runs and then the videographer slipped me the ring and once she threw the petals up, I got down on one knee. I blacked out, but I got everything out that I wanted."
Three months after their April 2021 vows, she announced she was expecting son Gates. "OVER THE MOON EXCITED TO SHARE THE NEWS!" she wrote on social media. "I've loved you before you were in my womb!" Raven and Adam welcomed the child in January 2022.
Sure, she waffled a bit in the early days of Paradise, unsure if her heart belonged to Barbour or Blake Horstmann, but once she zeroed in on the tech entrepreneur, she truly committed. Now the California-based duo are busying themselves with putting together their dream nuptials. While Barbour is set on a good DJ and "maybe an In-N-Out truck," Godwin is thinking big picture.
"I have a few little things saved on social media," she told E! News in November 2019. "I have such fun ideas, but good weather, a cool view and a really good time. That's the one thing we do talk about and reiterate."
So he pulled a Mesnick? More than three years after Bachelor Arie dumped onetime fiancée Becca Kufrin on-air to start things up again with Lauren, the pair are married (Chris Harrison officiated their January 2019 wedding in Hawaii, natch), loving life with their 2-year-old daughter Alessi and 11-month-old twins Lux and Senna and perfecting the art of getting through tough times together. Following a heartbreaking 2020 miscarriage, Arie gifted his bride with an eternity band symbolizing "that we will always have each other in our darkest times," Lauren explained. "i think it's safe to say he gets husband of the year."
To hear Arie tell it, though, makes him the lucky one. "The fact is, I'm really happy with Lauren," he told GQ in 2018 of their origin story. "So for me, it was all worth it."