What We Lost: Inside Kobe Bryant's Prolific Life and Enduring Legacy

On Jan. 26 NBA legend Kobe Bryant's life was cut tragically short. But man did the five-time champion and married father of four pack a lot of living into his 41 years.

By Sarah Grossbart Aug 23, 2020 7:00 AMTags
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Kobe Bryant was the sort of legendary athlete that other legendary athletes spoke about with pure reverence.

Remembering the first time he was face-to-face with the five-time champ, LeBron James told the story of tracking him down at Philadelphia's InterContinental hotel ahead of the 2002 NBA All-Star Game. Bryant would go on to win MVP honors in the game, but first he gifted budding high school star James with a pair of his Nike Kobe XI red, white and blue basketball sneakers. A size too small, the teen "rocked them" anyway, he shared with reporters

And so years later, James continued, "it was a dream come true" to join Bryant on the Olympic team in 2008, standing shoulder to shoulder with his idol on the podium as he nabbed the first of his two gold medals. 

"Just admiring him for so many years and seeing him from afar and then being able to be in practices with him and, you know, me watching and learning. There's just too much. The story is just too much," James said in a post-game interview Jan. 25, having just passed Bryant on the NBA's all-time scoring list. "Now I'm here in a Lakers uniform in Philadelphia where he's from, where one of the first times I ever met him, gave me his shoes; he won All-Star weekend. It's surreal. It doesn't make no sense."

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At the time, the power forward was simply reflecting on what the moment meant to him. But my word does his tribute seem eerily prescient.
 
Because hardly 12 hours later, Bryant was traveling with 13-year-old daughter Gianna Bryant, two of her youth basketball teammates, three of their parents and longtime pilot Ara Zobayan to a tournament at his Mamba Sports Academy in Thousand Oaks, Calif. when their Sikorsky S-76B helicopter crashed into the hills of Calabasas, Calif. There were no survivors. 

While Bryant, who would have turned 42 today, had at least contemplated the unimaginable, he and wife Vanessa Bryant reportedly making a pact to never ride aboard a helicopter together, the news floored pretty much everyone else. Tributes poured in from his fellow NBA stars, his fans, the kind that have admired him their entire lives (whispering "Kobe" to themselves as they nailed a shot in their driveway or through the imaginary hoop above their trash), and even casual observers, because everyone has heard of Kobe Bryant.  

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An athlete as seemingly invincible as Bryant, who nicknamed himself Black Mamba in reference to the agility and aggressiveness of the venomous African snake, wasn't supposed to perish. Certainly not when he had plans to accomplish so much more. 

And mourning the loss of someone so prolific, someone so synonymous with both the sport of basketball and the city of Los Angeles, would have been a monumental task—even if the Grammys weren't taking place later that day at the Staples Center where the scoring assassin and dedicated competitor played his heart out for 20 straight seasons.

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Landmarks from LAX to New York City's Madison Square Garden to L.A.'s City Hall were lit up in purple and gold. NBA teams, filled with the type of athletes who grew up idolizing Bryant, came up with tributes on the fly, tipping off games with 24-second shot clock and eight-second half court violations representing the two numbers the athlete wore during his career. Fans, turning up in their #24 and #8 jerseys, held vigil outside the arena as celebrities, clad in their Grammys best, struggled to make sense of the tragedy. 

"Earlier today, Los Angeles, America and the whole wide world lost a hero. And we're literally standing here heartbroken in the house that Kobe Bryant built," host Alicia Keys began before launching into a rendition of "It's So Hard to Say Goodbye" with Boyz II Men. "We never imagined in a million years we'd have to start the show like this."

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Three years into his retirement, the scoring legend (inducted into the Naismith Memorial Basketball Hall of Fame this year, the first time he was eligible) was hard at work on a second act. Outsiders had warned him he wasn't ready to pack it in and scoffed at his plans to become a content creator, but clearly they had forgotten just who they were dealing with. 

"You got to do what you love to do," Bryant explained to USA Today this past January, in what would turn out to be his final interview. "I love telling stories. I love inspiring kids or providing them with tools that are going to help them." 

So the Harry Potter fan formed Granity Studios, creating a kid's podcast, Punies, and writing a series of sports fantasy books. "Our challenge now is taking books and making them into films, feature films and in series, some of which will be animated, some of which will be live action," he explained. 

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Because he'd already proved quite adept at that, turning a letter he'd written announcing his retirement from sports into Dear Basketball, the animated short film that earned him an Oscar in 2018. 

"I mean what in the hell. I'm still tripping about it," he marveled days later on Jimmy Kimmel Live. "I hadn't won a championship in a really, really long time, so here we are." Stunned as he was, though, he was already moving on to the next challenge. "I think for us going forward, it's how do I carry this night beyond this night," he continued. "There's a greater sense of responsibility of how do I create, how do I provide more opportunities for even more diverse new voices to be heard in this industry?"

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So, yeah, he had big plans and a broad reach. "As basketball players, we're really supposed to shut up and dribble," he'd said accepting his Oscar, making reference to the words detractors use whenever athletes dare form an opinion on anything outside of their shooting form. "I'm glad we can do a little bit more than that." 

Though he was awfully good at the dribbling. 

The son of former NBA player Joe "Jelly Bean" Bryant, the sports prodigy was blasted into the spotlight even before he left the halls of Pennsylvania's Lower Merion High School, leading his team to a 1996 state championship, its first in more than 50 years, and then taking Brandy—one of the decade's biggest pop stars—to prom. Chosen 13th overall by the Charlotte Hornets, he was the first guard to be picked in the first round of the NBA draft straight out of high school, a move that required equal parts skill and confidence, both of which he had in abundance.

Thanks to an immediate trade deal, he landed in L.A. with the Lakers, where he'd be joined by Shaquille O'Neal and remain for his entire career. 

Chosen for the All-Star Game in 18 of his 20 seasons, he was named All-NBA 15 times, the NBA Finals MVP twice and the league's most valuable player in 2008, two years after he scored an astonishing 81 points in a game against the Toronto Raptors. (That total remains only second to basketball legend Wilt Chamberlain's 100-point game.)

A decade into his professional career, he changed his number from 8 to 24, the one he'd worn in high school, to acknowledge his growth as a player and a man. Both were retired by the Lakers in 2017.

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"For 20 seasons, Kobe showed us what is possible when remarkable talent blends with an absolute devotion to winning. He was one of the most extraordinary players in the history of our game," NBA commissioner Adam Silver said in a statement. "But he will be remembered most for inspiring people around the world to pick up a basketball and compete to the very best of their ability. He was generous with the wisdom he acquired and saw it as his mission to share it with future generations of players, taking special delight in passing down his love of the game to Gianna."

In his final game against the Utah Jazz on April 13, 2016, Bryant dropped 60, left the court and didn't look back. 

Because much awaited him off the hardwood. There was his desire to tell stories and dedication to championing other players, whether that means calling out the skills of WNBA stars Diana Taurasi, Maya Moore and Elena Della Donne ("I think there are a couple of players who could play in the NBA right now honestly," he told CNN) or the kids he mentored as coach of Gianna's AAU team, appropriately named The Mambas.  

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But most important was the family he had built with Vanessa, the woman he'd met on the set of a music video in 1999, proposing just one year later when she turned 18. A relationship encapsulating the whole of their adult lives, theirs was not without a few lows.

In 2003, a 19-year-old Colorado hotel employee accused Bryant of rape. The subsequent assault charges were dropped when the woman decided not to testify, but she and Bryant settled a separate civil lawsuit out of court and he released an apology "for my behavior that night and for the consequences she has suffered." And while he stopped short of admitting guilt, saying in his statement, "I truly believe this encounter between us was consensual," he allowed, "I recognize now that she did not and does not view this incident the same way I did."

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His actions threatened to fell both his career and his marriage, and Vanessa later filed for divorce in 2011 citing irreconcilable differences. But not quite a year later the longtime couple took to social media announcing their plans for a reconciliation. "I am happy to say that Vanessa and I are moving on with our lives together as a family," he wrote on Facebook. "When the show ends and the music stops, the journey is made beautiful by having that someone to share it with."   

In the years since, as the athlete made the most of his second act, the couple had been enjoying something of a renaissance themselves. Third daughter Bianka joined 17-year-old Natalia and Gianna in December 2016 and their youngest girl, Capri, arrived in June 2019. 

"I love having girls—like, I love it," he told Jimmy Kimmel in September 2019. "They're awesome, man. Having a boy—my wife wants a boy more than I do—but I love my girls. She keeps saying, 'Stop speaking it into existence.' [I'll say] 'I love my girls.' [And she'll say] 'Stop saying that, you want a boy.'"

But Bryant was more than happy to take in multiple viewings of Frozen or enjoy a dad-and-daughter date to Starbucks. "Being a father is the thing I am most proud of in this world; it's my greatest accomplishment," he told Maria Shriver in November 2019. "I've learned so much, but perhaps the most profound thing has been the fierce, unconditional love you have for your children when you become a parent. I'm blessed to have had that experience four times now and there's nothing more powerful in this world."

As for the bond he shared with Vanessa, it had been shaken, certainly, a time or two, but the pair took comfort in the fact that they were still standing.

"We've seen couples that have been, like, 85 years old and you look and you're like, 'Oh man, such an old, sweet couple,' and I'd go talk to them because I wanna know," Bryant explained while speaking with former NBA pros Matt Barnes and Stephen Jackson on their All the Smoke podcast in January. "One time a guy goes, 'Yeah, it's great, but she just kicked me out of the bed last night, I was sleeping on the couch last two nights.' That's the beauty of it: having the persistence and determination to work through things—very, very tough things—and we've been able to do that." 

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Because for all of the trophies he held and adulations he received, family was the one thing he was determined to get right. 

"Here was this guy who was beyond gifted as an athlete, who was obsessed with being a champion, who was known as an absolute assassin with a ball in his hands," Derek Jeter wrote in a tribute posted on The Players' Tribune. "And in the moments I got to spend with him? He didn't really talk about any of that. He cared much more about being a husband to Vanessa and a dad to his girls. He loved his family—he was his family. That's what was important."

Heartbreakingly, it was his relationship with Gianna that was especially close. A middle schooler with dreams to play at the University of Connecticut and then in the WNBA, she was the one eager to follow in his footsteps. "It's a trip to see her move and some of the expressions she makes," he told the Los Angeles Times. "It's a trip how genetics work." Every bit as confident as Dad, she was quick to shut down anyone foolish enough to suggest Bryant needed a son to carry on his legacy. 

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"The best thing that happens is when we go out and fans come up to me, and she'll be standing next to me," he shared with Kimmel. "They'll be like 'Man, you gotta have a boy, you and V gotta have a boy, have somebody carry on your tradition, the legacy and she's like, 'Oh, I got this! You don't need a boy for that. I got this.' I'm like, that's right. Yes you do."

She was the one who brought him back courtside after he spent years skipping games in favor of watching Natalia's volleyball matches or being home for Bianka's bedtime routine. "Before Gigi got into basketball I hardly watched it, but now that she's into basketball, we watch every night," he revealed on All the Smoke. "When I took her to the Laker game, that's the first Laker game I've been to I think since my jersey retirement. We had so much fun because it was the first time I was seeing the game through her eyes." 

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Ultimately, for him, that was the love of the game, never mind the trophies that filled their Newport Beach, Calif. home.

"I started playing when I was two. So after playing for 20 years in the league, what I have now is, everything that I've learned from the game, I carry with me to this day. So the game's never truly left me," Bryant said on Good Morning America, explaining why he doesn't miss his playing days. "Physically, yes, but emotionally and the things that I write, all stem from the game. So it's still a part of me." 

It's just not all of him. "The other thing is that for athletes that come next, understand that there is a finality to it, right? And that's okay," he advised. "It's very hard to let go of something that you've done for half your life and it's kind of become who you are. But there's a difference between doing what you do versus understanding that that is not who you are."

As for what else might come down the line, he was prepared. In a resurfaced 2016 video interview with The Ringer, Bryant spoke about how facing down his own mortality as an athlete had helped him grow comfortable with the concept of death. "It's an understanding that you can't have life without death, can't have light without the dark, right? So it's an acceptance of that," he explained. He couldn't be certain what awaited in the afterlife, but having posted up against challenges his entire life, he was confident he could handle whatever. 

"I'll know when I die," he said. "To me, it's that simple: 'I don't know, we'll see.'"

(Originally published Jan. 27, 2020, at 10 a.m. PT)