On last week's edition of Dancing With the Stars, James Van Der Beek made a move that even the ever exacting Bruno Tonioli would award a 10. And it had nothing to do with his quickstep. 

Pregnant for the ninth time in their nine-year marriage, wife Kimberly Van Der Beek agreed to invite ABC cameras into that ever-important first doctor's appointment. Having already endured three miscarriages, the parents to Olivia, 9, Joshua, 7, Annabel, 5, Emilia, 3, Gwendolyn, 16 months knew all too well how precarious the situation could be, which is precisely why they made it extremely pubic. 

"We chose to have our first ultrasound on camera with our #DWTS crew capturing the result—something I NEVER thought we'd ever do... but @vanderkimberly and I have been through three of those first appointments to discover either no heartbeat, or no baby, and she wanted to share this moment," he later explained on Instagram

Miscarriages (a word the Dawson's Creek alum takes particular umbrage with, noting, "Nobody failed to 'carry', these things sometimes just happen,") are incredibly common and yet infrequently discussed, the idea being that women should keep pregnancies hush-hush until after the first trimester, when the risk of pregnancy loss drops considerably. 

While discussions of mortality are never pleasant, eschewing such conversations leaves couples to deal with the heartbreak all on their own, adding a dose of isolation to an already painful, and often guilt-ridden, time. Because despite having no control over the situation, it's hard to quiet the internal voices asking, "Could I have done something to prevent this?" 

But, as James points out, this is a circumstance that should have "zero shame", only compassion and support. "We decided to put ourselves out there—not knowing what we'd find—in an effort to chip away at any senseless stigma around this experience," he continued, "and to encourage people who might be going through it to open themselves up to love & support from friends and family when they need it most." 

His is just one voice in the chorus of celebrities who have become increasingly vocal about their experience with miscarriages in hopes of lessening the burdens others bear. As we mark National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, read their words and remember that you're not alone. 

Jana Kramer, Mike Caussin

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Claire Holt, Son, James, Mother's Day 2019

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Katie Lowes, Upfront

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Nicole Kidman

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Carrie Underwood, Mike Fisher


Michelle Obama, Sasha Obama, Malia Obama

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Beverley Mitchell

Heidi Garcia

Jamie Bell, Kate Mara

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Joy-Anna Duggar, Austin Forsyth


Shay Mitchell, Matte Babel


Meghan McCain, The View

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Whitney Port, Sonny Rosenman

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Shawn Johnson, Andrew East, Miscarriage, YouTube


Hilaria Baldwin, Kids


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