"Somebody once told me that if you feel sadness and empathy and pity for someone the root of that is love," the former Kate Plus 8 star said of her current feelings towards Jon.
When asked about Jon's relationship with their eight kids, Kate said, "They visit him every other weekend. He has a dinner night with them. Without going into to much detail, we are making the best of it."
"I definitely want them to know that I did not want to hinder or stand in the way of that relationship with him," she continued. "So I do everything I can to foster that, because it is important and you have to have the ability to remove judgment and ugliness from that. The best thing for my kids is that I give them the opportunity and the ability to continue that relationship. When they are older if they don't want to do it anymore or whatever decisions they make, that is their business. For now, my job is to foster that bond."
Bethenny also grilled Kate on what she's doing with her reality-TV fortune.
"The majority of what we made, I personally took and put in a college fund for [the kids] because they will go to college," Kate said. "So I use coupons, we don't wear the top brands. Those things to me really aren't overly important, but college, school and their house, where they live is important. Divorce is divorce, when you are going through divorce, a lot of it you're looking back over the years to see in your own mind what went wrong, what happened. I think it magnified it maybe. It caused things to come to light a lot sooner but looking back those issues were always there and I feel like the person that I married nearly overnight was not that person anymore."