Taylor Swift on Friendship With Selena Gomez and Emma Stone, Calls Relationships "Ultimate Collaboration"

Country crooner also confesses that she doesn't like wearing the pants when it comes to her love life

By Alyssa Toomey Nov 12, 2012 5:23 PMTags
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Taylor Swift may wear the pants in the music industry, but when it comes to relationships, the superstar doesn't like to take control.  

The 22-year-old singer covers the December issue of Harper's Bazaar and dishes on her friendship with Emma Stone and Selena Gomez, as well as her dating style, where she confesses that her relationships need "to be equal."

"If I feel too much like I'm wearing the pants, I start to feel uncomfortable and then we break up," she tells the mag, while also admitting that relationships are "the ultimate collaboration." 

But that doesn't mean the blond beauty doesn't like to be taken care of: 

"It's wonderful to hand over the reins to your boyfriend when you control so much of these big, high-pressure decisions, you know? That is a huge defining factor in who you choose to be with."

From Taylor Lautner to John Mayer to Jake Gyllenhaal, nearly all of Taylor's high-profile relationships have been played out in the public eye, and she most recently ended her whirlwind romance with 18-year-old Conor Kennedy. Although the singer has yet to specifically dish on why the duo called it quits (it was reportedly too difficult to maintain a long-distance relationship), she did shed some light on the reasons behind her breakups:

"Some combinations of people are toxic, you know? You have to find the right one that isn't just going to explode into fiery ash and destruction," she admits. "Despite all of that and how unpleasant it is, as a writer you get a lot from it. It's a crazy justification system. You know that guy you really wish you could erase from your memory? But then the answer is track six, eight, 12, and 13." 

And although we'll have to wait and see whether a Kennedy-inspired single is in the works, Taylor can always count on friends like Selena Gomez and Emma Stone to support her as she copes with dating in the public eye.

"We never talk about fashion, about career, about our ambitions or our projects," she says of her famous friends. "We just talk about relationships, feelings, love, and boys."

Considering both Taylor and Selena have recently gone through high-profile heartbreak, we're just glad to hear the girls can count on each other.