After meeting Cruise, now 50, on the set of Days of Thunder, Kidman entered the phase she refers to as "fame by association." In the early stages of their relationship, says "it was like, 'I'm here and I'm clutching onto your arm, and it all feels a little overwhelming and really strange.'...And I was shy. Deeply shy. I didn't feel comfortable at all. But I felt very comfortable at home."
But her marriage to Urban, 44, worked well from the start. "He just gave me confidence," she muses. "Through just being very kind to me and understanding me, opening me up to trying things, my sexuality, those sorts of things."
Kidman says the country star is "more like an ocean; he took me out."
As for her ex and his failed marriage to Katie Holmes? Kidman had nothing to say to Harper's Bazaar (she told Who last week she wished them well and denied having spoken with Holmes leading up to the split). She characterized her recent return to the tabloids as "very, very fleeting. I'm not caught up in any of it. It's not really a part of my life."