Kendra Wilkinson-Baskett is doing her best to look on the bright side.
"The tape has definitely brought Hank and I closer together, made us more of a team, like, 'Let's put our vest on, let's get out there, let's fight!' " the E! star said in an exclusive sit-down with E! News' Ryan Seacrest, in which they discussed the sex tape, made with an ex-boyfriend when Kendra was 18, that reared its ugly head recently.
The whole debacle has been "extremely embarrassing" for the 24-year-old, who said that she warned NFL-player hubby Hank Baskett that the tape existed before they got married because she "didn't want it to just come out and smack us in the face."
But ultimately, "it's going to make us better people, strong people," she said.
"Now that this happened, it hurts, but I know it's going to make me and Hank better parents," Kendra said. "It's really going to make us teach our child what's right and wrong in this world, what's good and evil...We're going to make sure our son is raised with a good head on his shoulders, a person that has morals, that treats women with respect."
As opposed to whoever leaked the tape to cash in on her celebrity status, perhaps.
"I'm a very open person, very honest about my life, but a sex tape is definitely not what I wanted in my life," she said. "I made love to my boyfriend at the time, we just happened to videotape it. It wasn't for anybody else's eyes to see but ours.
"I was going to marry him, we were going to be together forever. And I didn't know I was going to be famous—It was something that we did, and it was for our eyes only."
"I didn't do it out of fame, I didn't do it for money, I did it because I was in love with him," she added. "It just sucks. It's really embarrassing."
Kendra said that, even though she was a "crazy party girl throughout those Playboy Mansion years," what she always wanted was to be a wife and mom.
"That was my dream, it's always been my dream—and I'm here now. I'm here where I want to be, the happiest person I've ever been, and it just so happens my past has to haunt me now."
She said it was of course difficult for her and Hank to tell their respective families about the brewing scandal, not to mention face the public.
But, "Hank and I and our families know the truth [about the story behind the tape] and that's why they're supporting us, that's why they're behind us, and that's why they're going to fight till death with us!"
Kendra also gave a shout-out to her fans, saying that they, along with her husband and other family members, "are the ones that are really giving me that feeling inside that I can go on with my life and live again."
Speaking of which, she and Hank are not planning to add to their family just yet. She said that they'll focus on a second child once Hank IV has made it to elementary school secure that he has the love and support of both parents.
And when they do decide to have another kid, it definitely won't be because they feel as if they have something to prove about the state of their marriage.
"There are rumors out there saying we want to fix our marriage by having another child—that is such crap," Kendra said. "We're not going to have kids just because a sex tape came out. That's just stupid."
(Originally published June 8, 2010, at 7:30 p.m. PT)